Here are some advice gathered along the way that we would like give to those of you contemplating the idea of getting married:
Create your own private home
“Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh” Genesis 2:24
This verse is very clear, a married couple must leave their parents and start to build their own home. Sometimes life put some obstacles in the way, it could be bad finances or health problems but the commandment is pretty cut and dry. I believe it is better to have a small meager place to start than to not cut the umbilical cord. The beginning of the marriage is already hard enough, it’s best to keep it between you two as much as possible. Following this rule gives marriage a strong start!
Keep Christ in the center of your home
“Unless the Lord builds the house, they labor in vain who build it.” Psalm 127:1
Put Christ first in your marriage! He will be the glue that binds you together.
The love of Jesus is like water and fertilizer; it will keep your marriage blossoming.
Always remember that God himself joined you in your marriage, so even when love disappears or when you don’t feel like fighting, do not give up! The love of Jesus has the power to restore broken home with love and happiness!
Agree that divorce is not an option
“What God has joined together, let no man separate”. Matthew 19:6
This goes to the end of the previous point. Entering in the marriage is one of the most important decision that someone could ever take. It has such a big impact in the direction of one’s life, that’s why we have to enter into it carefully and prayerfully. Couples should work continuously to make the ties of the marriage indestructible.
Sometimes it’s tempting to think of divorce as an escape. Many couples have considered it at one time or another. But divorce can be compared to a plague that is hard to contain, spreads all over the place and affects others.
Of course here, we are not talking about staying in a harmful and life threatening relationship. Thoughts are so powerful and can grow into reality. That’s why we have to control our thought and focus on relationship health.
Choose your battles
“Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoice in the truth, bears all things, believe all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” 1 Corinthians 13:4
This is one piece of advice that someone gave me when I was getting married that has stuck with me and proven very useful! Marriage is about give and take. There will be times when you will have to put water in your wine and let go of some “lesser” things in order to put the emphasis on what really matters to you.
Be reasonable with money
“Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.” Galatians 5:23
Money is one of the major causes of friction in a marriage. So when you enter in marriage you should be willing to forget “my” and “mine” and replace it by “our” or “ours”. A husband’s and wife’s incomes in marriage should be merged and cheerfully shared. One of the success key in successful finances is also to ask God to guide you in the way of managing your money and always look for His plan. You have to consider yourself and your spouse as stewards over your finances for a purpose, to enjoy many blessings.
As we finish writing this article, we are reminded of so much more advice that we have been given and utilized in our relationship. But what we are giving you here is the core, look out for Part 2. Marriage is a great adventure, embrace it wholly!
Feel free to comment and add your advice to this list.
Have a great day! 💕