You are, at this moment, standing, right in the middle of your own acres of diamonds. – Earl Nightingale
What a great quote, isn’t it?!
Last night I witnessed yet another fight scene between my neighbors, but this time a little more violent. Without going into details, for I do not fully know their history and refrain from judging, I was nonetheless deeply touched by the matter… I wondered how can we get ourselves into such extreme behavior as cheating, sexual instability, self mutilation, and physical altercation? Why do we stay in such toxic relationships? What makes us endure so much emotional and physical suffering?
Having self-esteem is often the result of self-confidence and self love. It is the result of us knowing that no matter what we are of great value. The realization of this truth is an important key to living a happy and purposeful life.
It is a common fact that in wobbly couples, one or both parties lacks self-love. The lack of self-love often comes with the over excess of something else…emotional baggage. Now don’t get me wrong, we all bring something into our relationships, the question is are we bringing emotional baggage that can be defined as regret from past relationships? It’s often seen that the one partner who lacks self love will continuously attract emotional baggage, which intern eats at his or her self confidence. The other partner, who keeps trying to put things together will in return begin to doubt the relationship before getting tired of always having to give proof of love without reciprocity. This kind of relationship is a crazy game of trick mirrors, which is based on an impossible mission: trying pathetically to give the other what he/she needs to first give themselves, love to oneself.
Lack of self-love in general is related to childhood, family environment, or bad experiences, many times we had no say or control over the matter. However we must not let the trauma and drama we have incurred from the past, hold us back from living our best selves in the present!
Every human being has in him the strength to say STOP, enough is enough!
Of course it takes a lot of courage, a lot of will, and definitely a lot of self-esteem! We just have to decide to do it and discipline ourself to go through with it. It is obviously going to take time and as in any self-change work, will need persistance!
Self-love means we greatly value ourselves and look for the very best. It is therefore more accurate to say we find love by first loving ourselves. To learn to love yourself it is recommended to have wholesome fun, take time to treat yourself, meditate, and repeat daily positive affirmations.
Many of us value diamonds as being the most precious things in this world, but I want you to realize that you are much more valuable. No matter what has happened, no matter what someone says, no matter what the future looks like, you deserve the best and in this realization you will attract greatness.